2008, Issue 1
Educating, Connecting and Supporting families in Monash
Being A Dad!
FATHER TO BE - John Wales
"Any man can be a father, but it takes a special person be a dad" - from internet
A father to be, waiting the arrival of his first child does experience a wave of many emotions ranging from anywhere between excitement and nervousness.
I'm sure like I, most fathers to be have already received a great deal of advice, views and opinions from family and friends. It can be a little overwhelming but at the end of the day it is the most exhilarating and amazing moment of your life.
This was unknown territory for me. I wasn't really prepared but I think that's part of the beauty in having a child. The level of excitement and joy that childbirth brings is hard to explain and match, apart from it totally exceeded my expectations.
After breakfast, lunch and tea, 14 hours after arriving at the hospital, a natural birth, a lot of pain (not on my part), a little boy was born and he looked just like me. He even had my hairline. He was absolutely gorgeous.
When I held my newborn son I didn't think I could feel the way I did. I was totally blown away with not only amazement but also shock (remember he looked just like me). Nothing else in the world matters as you hold them.
It must be noted for first time fathers that during labour whatever your wife/partner says to you should not be taken personally. I just couldn't put a foot right. I seemed to do everything wrong, It started with getting my wife a drink, wrong flavour; then some lollies, wrong type and was ended with me continually placing a damp cloth on the incorrect spot while patting her brow.
When we first arrived home I was still on cloud nine but there was a degree of nervousness and insecurity on my part but it is so short lived. A willingness to try and a lot of love to offer are the only qualifications required.
Changing nappies, bathing, feeding, playing and dressing your baby, you’ll love it.
Learning how to comfort and hold a crying unsettled baby. You will be surprised how quick you will adapt and how confident you will become. You start off as an apprentice and very quickly you become an expert.
Fathers do need to be prepared when the family finally comes home as the focus of attention will swing. You are not No.1 anymore.
It does change your relationship but with a little understanding, patience and support your relationship will not only strengthen but also thrive.
Updated: 1 May 2008
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